Life Update!

I am ~IN FLOW~ and God is working!

At the end of last year, I started to feel a strong push to move into something new. I didn’t know what. But I knew I wanted to learn, evolve, and elevate. 

I got curious. I started talking to anyone I admired that would talk to me. Asking questions, getting insight, sharing my vision, and getting feedback. 

In January, I started trying to figure out a name for my marketing and operations consulting business. The day after I bought the domain, I started getting ads for executive education at all the top business schools. 

Harvard’s program stood out because it was specifically for women of color. I put my all into the application while I was on set for a veterinary pharmaceutical campaign production that I wasn’t particularly interested in. A week later, I was accepted to Harvard Business School’s Advancing Women of Color in Leadership executive immersion. I was so excited! I connected with a Harvard alum who encouraged me to apply for a scholarship. I hadn’t even considered that.

The morning after I applied for the scholarship, I got laid off. I didn’t know it was coming but I felt God’s presence in it. It was a very clear message “It’s time to move on and it’s not optional”. 

February 12, 2025. The day I got laid off. I went to Soho to have lunch and go to the gym. Ended up running into a couple friends who became future clients! It was clear that God was orchestrating what was next for me. I was relieved and decided to release control and ride the wave.

The next day, a friend that I had been cultivating a relationship with for about a year reached out (without knowing I had been laid off) and said his team needs someone with my skill set to help them professionalize their business. 

The following week, I was granted the partial scholarship. 

Within two weeks, I had officially formed my consulting business. TREEHOUSE COLLABS: Elevating and building structure around brands, while leaving them in their natural habitat. Establishing and evolving brand strategy. Facilitating impactful collaboration. 

And not only that, I already had my first client. A wealth management firm that focuses on life insurance planning and optimization for high net worth individuals and companies. A small, but mighty firm that would allow me to have a true impact on the way they do business daily. It was a chance to increase my earning potential significantly. Working smarter, not harder.

In our early conversations, the CEO casually mentioned “You’ll go get your producer license so you can get commissions on these deals”. I was intimidated, but immediately knew I wanted to give myself every opportunity to make money. 

They paid me upfront for the first month of work, giving us time and space to define my role. I used that money to pay the remainder of the tuition for Harvard. I knew it would be worth it to invest in myself. And technically, my consulting business paid for me to go. 

In the meantime, I took the prep course and started studying for my licensing exams. Three weeks later, I took all 4 licensing exams in one morning and passed them all! I became a Licensed Life and Health Insurance Producer.

Around the same time, the CEO of the firm asked me to be their Chief Operating Officer after less than 4 weeks of working together. I’d had that much of an impact. It felt a little unbelievable, but I saw my impact as well and I knew I deserved it. I knew I could do the job.

At the same time, one of our top insurance advisors, a very successful investor in high character and high alignment companies, found out about Yin Society and ordered a candle. I sent him all three. 

He LOVED them. The scents, the design, and the intention behind them. He could tell they were made with love. He loved them so much that he decided to purchase a bulk order of 45 candles to give away to retreat attendees and burn during his upcoming Business Mastermind and Spiritual Wellness retreat for high achieving entrepreneurs. I was honored. But I wasn’t ready. 

I called my sister in a panic asking what I should do. She said “What do you mean? I’m coming over tonight and we’re going to make 45 candles.” And we did just that. Made them Monday, labeled them Tuesday, and shipped them off to San Francisco on Wednesday. We made a total of 100 candles that week and sold 85 of them. Yin Society’s biggest week ever. 

The candles for the retreat arrived Friday and I was so relieved that they had made it safely and on time. Then the organizer of the event decided “Vanessa needs to be in the room.” And invited me to join at no cost. My clients were already planning to attend and they funded my travel and lodging to make sure I could be there. We all knew it was important for us to work every angle and make authentic connections based on all of our unique ventures. 

In order to attend this event, I had to postpone a meeting with a potential art-centered brand development client which was a tough decision. It’s another organic opportunity that presented itself and it’s a dream come true in terms of what I’ve been actively working towards. But I knew that it could be rescheduled and that my presence at this retreat and my ability to lead the narrative about Yin Society would be worth it. 

I got there and WOW. The energy was immediately magnetic, warm, and inspiring. I was the youngest and least “accomplished” person in the room. I was inspired. And also surprised to see that everyone was intentional about getting to know me, my business, and truly saw me the way I see myself. A blessing. 

The BALANCE candle burned for the entire first day. I was a little nervous because we had planned to burn ENERGY the entire time and the organizer had left them at home. BALANCE was a new scent combination due to fragrance oil inventory issues. It was technically still in a test phase. But omg it smelled amazing and truly elevated the vibes in the room. It’s was so beautiful to experience. We burned ENERGY in the main room on day 2 and BALANCE on the side rooms. 

We learned from some of the country’s top coaches, CEOs, and investors. We did breath and body work. Meditation. We got massages. I did a cold plunge and sauna combo for the first time. We went to the legendary Phish concert. We learned about the Champion’s Mindset and Intuitive Leadership practices. We all opened up and allowed ourselves to be vulnerable so that we could all be renewed, healed and empowered as we move forward with commitment to our life’s purpose. 

I left feeling seen and valued in a way that I had never experienced in an advertising agency. And the best part was, all I had to do was show up. There was nothing forced, nothing to prove, nothing to accomplish. The last conversations I had were people asking me how they can help me expand and further articulate my vision. They asked me what did Yin Society need to grow. I was floored. But I stayed calm, I smiled, and I told them exactly what I envisioned for the company and how I believed they could help. 

As well as everything went, it ended on a really really bad note. I had a terrible disagreement with my client, who I had (or so I thought) built a pretty solid friendship with. It was painful. It was out of my control. And a clear indicator of a necessary boundary. After multiple days of vulnerability and open-heartedness, it really pierced me. And required me to feel it and then move into spiritual release and repair. Luckily, one of my best friends from Howard and my LA days, Briana, lives in the Bay and was able to meet for dinner in Oakland within an hour. I got out of the uber and fell into her arms in tears. Like any good sister, she got me together. She held space for me and gave objective advice that helped me pull it together and keep things in perspective. And on top of that, we were able to celebrate the start of her birthday week!

The next day I left, stopped home in Chicago for 18 hours, spent time with my family at my aunt’s repast, and then left again to go to HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL in Boston. I promised myself that I wouldn’t let any negativity from the day before bleed into the experience that was ahead of me at HBS. 

On the plane, I read The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, one of the gifts from the retreat. GEMS. It was the perfect follow up and prep for what was next. I got off the plane and went to stay at my best friend Candace’s apartment while her and her boyfriend Lee (who is a current Harvard MBA student) were out of town. It was the perfect home space to decompress and get to work. 

I was behind on studying the coursework for the program. And they made it very clear that the way to get the most out of the program was to come fully prepared, with all of the business case studies read and questions answered.  So I spent all of Saturday reading and preparing notes. 

Sunday morning, I was in a coffee shop near their building and I ran into Joe Freshgoods. We were near the New Balance headquarters, so I guess it made sense but what were the chances?! We chopped it up briefly and then talked about the candle samples I had left for him at his store in Chicago and talked about retail partnership opportunities when his new store opens. It was a real “Right place, right time” moment. Like I said, God is working! 

I went back, got my bags and headed off to the business school campus where I would stay for the next four days. I was joined by about 75 other women of color from all over the country and all over the world. The energy was infectious from the very beginning. 

We took a tour of campus in the early afternoon and then immediately started classes on Sunday night. For four long days, we interrogated business case studies, heard from speakers, discussed research around what women of color experience in the work place and how to navigate. We held space for each other while we processed it all. We studied together. We cried together while we shared experiences. We challenged each other’s perspectives. We vowed to be present and take it all in. We were at THEE Harvard Business School. And it was clear that each and every one of us belonged here. 

When I first got into the classroom, I was surprised to see that not only did we have assigned seats, but I was placed right in the center of the class. VANESSA HOBSON. That was the first moment that felt like wow, there is a designated spot for ME at Harvard Business School. Then I noticed that everybody’s company was listed underneath their name. And mine still said the agency’s name where I no longer worked. I thought to myself, and mentioned to a few others that I wished I had changed it in advance. But I felt like it was too late. One of the girls I met that I immediately clicked with went to the staff the next day, without even mentioning it to me, and found out how I could get it changed. It was a major “Sis, I got you” moment. I was in tears. By lunch time on day 2, my name tag was changed to read Treehouse Collabs + Yin Society. 

So now in addition to my name, MY COMPANIES had a designated seat at HBS. I was among women who held leadership positions at top marketing, finance, and tech firms. Education, Theater, Healthcare. Non-profits. Global government agencies. And there was a designated seat for ME. People were curious and inspired by my story. They were interested in my businesses. It brought a wellness angle into the space that wasn’t being taught. It helped me align with people who had similar interests. It helped make space for us to admit, the corporate experience is hard and really hurts for us at times. I was able to share my story and inspire others who aspire to independent consulting opportunities that align with their truth. I was inspired by the professors, the business cases, the speakers, the sisterhood. And I could clearly see that I added value to every part of that week. I was walking in my truth and my power. And witnessing so many other beautiful Black, Asian, Indian, and Latina women do the same. We were oozing with appreciate and support for each other. I felt renewed. I felt proud. 

I wanted to sit fully in all of the good feelings, but I also knew that some of the themes we discussed were triggering. I could feel it physically and energetically. All of the research around how black women and other women of color are treated in corporate work environments and what we have to do to navigate effectively. I needed a break. Luckily, when the program ended, I was able to pack my bags and get back to Candace’s house in time to go to her yoga class. It was the perfect follow up to an intense week. 

Later that night, I hung out with Candace and Lee and another HBS couple and got a chance to reflect on the program and laugh with them about some of the Harvard traditions. I was surprised to hear how highly they regarded the program I had just finished. It made me feel even more proud of myself. I was in good company.

The next day, I slept in, had a few Yin Society meetings, and went to a beautiful dinner with Candace to close out the trip. I sat on the plane the next morning and started drafting this entry to help me fully process everything that has happened. 

As I reflected, I realized that this is truly a time where preparation is meeting opportunity and I’m watching my dreams come true. And the best part is that I can tell this is only the beginning. I can see that I’m moving into a mindset of limitlessness and reality is aligning with my spiritual elevation. These are the things you read about in spiritual wellness books and you believe it, but I must admit, it’s different and so much more beautiful to experience it in your life and KNOW that it’s true. All of the intentional work that I have poured into myself is helping me define who I can become and I couldn’t be more grateful. THIS is self love.

My mission moving forward is to stay in my truth, walk in my power, nurture my ideas, and attract that right people to grow with. 

Thank you God. 

xo, 

Ness




My Truth

There are infinite ways to spend my time in this life. I refuse to spend it miserable.

One of the biggest realizations that I’ve had lately is simple: I have choices.

It’s so easy to start going down one path and feel like this is now the way I have to go. I have to pursue this path at all costs.

But for me, these days, I will abort mission and move in a new direction.

I refuse to spend my time being miserable. Stressed and anxious. Chakras blocked. Physically ill.

I’m not stuck.

I can now more easily distinguish between discomfort that’s an investment in my growth and agony that’s to my detriment.

At the beginning of the year, I felt like I was on top of the world. So many amazing things were happening and it felt like I was ascending to new levels, finally. Emotionally, spiritually, professionally, and financially.

One thing I’ve learned since then is that big, new opportunities only provide you access to climb to the next level.

I’ll say that again. Big, new opportunities PROVIDE YOU ACCESS TO CLIMB. It’s not a quick flight to the top.

Once you start exploring new territory and higher altitudes, you never know what you’re going to find.

In the challenges that I’ve experienced since then, I’ve had to prove to myself once again that I can be honest with myself about how I feel and ACT ACCORDINGLY. I will advocate for myself no matter what. I care more about my inner knowing than what anyone else thinks of me. I can more easily and confidently remove myself from situations that continue to cause me pain.

I will step in and save myself, instead of waiting to be saved.

I’ve done it before, but it usually takes me a long time and a lot of convincing. This is the first time I’ve seen myself feel the misery of misalignment and immediately decide to shift course.

I’ll admit, it takes courage. But for me, courage comes easily when I’m serious about ME. When I love myself actively. In ways that make it clear that I can depend on myself.

I remember so many times that I wanted to protect myself but wasn’t confident enough to do so. I needed validation and reassurance. I needed to convince myself over and over again. I was vulnerable to manipulation.

I know that I have struggled with indecisiveness for a long time. I would always be fighting a battle in my mind. From the smallest thing to big life decisions. I spent almost all of my time with a little back and forth happening in my head. Should I do this or should I do that? This is how I feel, but maybe I’m trippin?

Once I put work into quieting my mind, I can see that the clarity has always been there. I always know, I just have to trust that as my truth.

I believe that life is to be enjoyed. And I can finally see that it starts with honoring my truth.

xo,

Ness

Moment of Clarity

I wish I could transcribe thoughts from my brain onto a page. I haven’t been feeling like writing at all, but I know I have a lot to release. And writing has always been my way. I’ve noticed that whenever I stray from writing, I stray from myself. I start to feel lost. And I don’t realize it until I’m so far gone.

Lately I’ve been feeling myself change. For the better. But it hurts. To change my perspective on many things that were my core beliefs. To walk away from several people that were my core people.

But I don’t want to resist it. I’m learning the importance of obedience to my truest self. I’m learning to observe with clarity. I’m learning to go where the energy flows. I’m learning to respect my inner knowing. And seeing the consequences of trying to quiet her voice. I’m learning to use my empathy as my resource. To know the vibes and act accordingly.

I’m doing my part. But I’m also being guided and I can feel it. I’m birthing ideas that don’t feel like my own. I’m witnessing the universe bring people into my life to grab my hand and help guide me along the journey.

I don’t want to resist.

Because the clarity I feel now won’t let me turn back.

I can feel myself growing and becoming a new me.

While the remnants of who I thought I was slowly slip away.

I don’t want to resist.

I won’t.

I am willing to change for me.

No questions asked.

xo,

Ness

Keep Going

One step forward, two steps back.

Three steps forward, one step back.

As frustrating as it can be, I’m starting to realize that if you keep going, eventually you’ll start to get somewhere.

And now I can see where I’ve been headed all along.

One thing builds on another. That thing leads to the next.

Somehow it all leads you back to yourself.

It all shows you who you are.

That’s one of the things that comforts me the most.

I never stay lost for long.

I always make it back.

When I read journal entries and blog posts from years ago, I’m teaching myself the same lessons that I’m learning now.

This has always been me.

I’m finally starting to honor myself for who I am.

A visionary. Constantly fueled by bringing my ideas to life.

I put my heart into everything I do.

I’m building a brand that’s about the lessons I’ve learned. The way I want to live my life.

About maintaining a mindset of living in my power.

Reminders, affirmations, vibe setting, writing. Self care. Natural beauty.

I love how it’s all coming together.

It feels right.

I’m starting to see the benefit of true alignment. The combination of hustle and flow.

I have a sense of clarity that I haven’t felt in a while.

All I can hear is the voice in my head telling me KEEP GOING.

And stay true to YOU.

Everywhere I turn, there’s a reminder.

Keep going.

The odds are in your favor.

I receive that.


It’s funny because I started writing this post in my notes a few days ago while I couldn’t sleep. The title was always “Keep Going”. Then I woke up this morning and saw a post from Complex on instagram with the caption “Keep going!” and it was like an omen. Another signal of alignment.


I plan to keep going. I hope you will too.

xo,

Ness







Breakthrough

The other day, I experienced God physically speaking through me for the first time in my life. I had sensed it before in my writing, but never this way.

I was walking down the street in Miami and I caught eyes with a man that I immediately knew required my attention. It was a spiritual connection. I was guided to sit down next to him so I did. I took a deep breath and grabbed both of his hands. We immediately started to cry. I told him that I had experienced the worst anxiety attack of my life that morning and I was feeling stronger now, but I could sense it in him. His hands started to shake and sweat. I told him it was time for him to release his anxiety. I held his hands tighter and told him that it was okay to release the energy to me and that I felt strong enough to absorb and discard it. He followed my lead and the transfer happened within minutes. We both cried so hard and then I saw the look in his eyes change. I could tell that he had hope for the first time in a very long time.

Next I felt compelled to remind him that he is not required to feel this way. He could live a peaceful life no matter what has happened. When I looked in his eyes, I could see that he has experienced several significant losses and the pain of that was the source of his unhappiness. I paused for a minute and then I asked him, “The people you have lost, what would they say if they came and sat here with us at this table. What is the life they would want for you?” and He answered. In that moment his eyes lit up a little more as he realized that he deserves to live a good life. We agreed that he would honor them so much more by living a peaceful life. He told me that this moment changed his life forever.

As I walked away from that conversation, I felt energy swirling around me and it was forcing me to release a hold that had been on my spirit for most of my life. It was such strong feeling that I had to scream to let it out. I wasn’t even crying anymore, but I screamed and I screamed and I screamed. I let it all out. God started showing me examples from my past about how I have sacrificed myself for other people and I could not believe it. I knew at that moment, I was done with it because I would never see things the same way.

I have lived with a mindset that everyone else’s needs are my responsibility. I’ve lived with the feeling that I should try to change because my presence alone makes some people uncomfortable. I have taken on too much. I have expected too much of myself. And in doing that, I created an an expectation from others that perpetuated the issue. My toxic trait is going too far to accommodate others and calling that love. And I mean accommodating people both physically and emotionally. I am a highly sensitive and empathetic person and I just realized that I’ve lived a lot of my life being overstimulated. That is the source of my anxiety. It’s the answer I’ve been looking for.

Showing love is a natural part of me and I don’t want that to change. But now I am choosing to accommodate myself more by realizing the simple fact that you can love people deeply without thinking you are responsible for their struggles or their happiness. I am also realizing that no matter how outgoing and social I am, I need quiet time too.

The most mind blowing part about this was seeing how God used me to help someone else and then he helped me in the same way immediately after.

I’ve always known that God was around me, but now I know that God is in me. And that gives me a type of peace that I have never felt.

P.S. - When I got home, I learned that we were heading toward a powerful and cleansing Lunar Eclipse that helps to explain this phenomenon. Everything is SO connected.

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xo,

Ness

9:22

Is it just me...or does everyone have certain times that you ALWAYS catch on the clock? 

I had one, but for the past few months, a new time stamp has been added. 

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It’s my dad’s birthday. At first I would only see it here and there, but now I see it almost everyday either in the morning or at night. 

In past years, seeing my dads birthday on the clock would’ve been a sad reminder of his absence. 

But for some reason, now seeing it makes me smile. I feel his presence around me now more than ever. It’s just like a quick “Hey Ness, hows it going?” 

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Around the house, my dad was usually a man of few words. And his little check-ins were his way of saying “I care.”

One thing he told me before he died is “My problems are not your problems. I will be fine one way or another.” When he said that, I knew exactly what he meant and it pierced me. It felt harsh and abrasive and I didn’t understand the concept of separating his troubles from my own, but now I get it. My dad wanted me to have peace even in the midst of everything we were going through. When I feel his presence now, I feel the peace that he was talking about and I’m so grateful.

I never try to intentionally check the clock at the time. It’s like I just happen to look up and there it is. 

On the days I miss it, I never get upset. It’s like how I talk to my mom almost everyday, but if we miss a day, it’s no big deal. 

I miss my dad Every. Single. Day. But I’m so grateful that I’m getting past the dark feelings of sadness and realizing that still to this day, he is here for me in the ways he can be. And I’ll accept that. 

Thanks, Dad. I love you. 

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xo,

Ness

NAKED

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I want to be bare with you

I want to get butt naked with you

And I want to be unapologetic about it

Because I’m constantly apologetic about it

Because I’m never comfortable with it

Because it scares me

Let every inch of me intertwine with every inch of you

A place where our wildest dreams and desires can roam free

A place where fear doesn’t have to exist

We are safe here

Let me caress your deepest and darkest fears

Hold on tight, I’m all ears.


-L