I typically try not to write about anything I’m not truly passionate about. This topic is so necessary.
It’s necessary for the insecure girl with low self esteem. It’s necessary for the girl who thinks she isn’t as cool because she only has 10 likes on her Facebook picture. It’s necessary for the girl who places WAY too much value on her Instagram likes and followers. And it’s VITAL for my future daughter (If I have one of those lol). I’m here to let all of you know, you are worth so much more than the lies social media inflicts upon you.
Just recently my friends reminded me of how much I’ve always been in my own lane. The other day, I was super excited to promote a post for this here very blog somewhere around 9:30 am. I was so thirsty, I texted my friends telling them to join in and help promote. They proceeded to tell me that it wasn’t “instagram peak hours”. I’m not going to lie, I was really upset that that was even their first thought. I didn’t even know they really followed those type of rules. It surprised me. I had to quickly snap out of it and look at the bigger picture for this blog. They reminded me that in order to gain more views, traffic, etc, it’s best to promote at the appropriate hours to benefit the site. This conversation led me to my next thought in regards to social media.
I wonder how many people play by these “how to gain popularity via social media rules”?. How many girls/women out there suffer from the NEED, the WANT, and the CRAVING to have validation from others in order to feel liked... cool... and even attractive. I’ll admit from time to time I do fall victim of this, but for me my brain operates something like this “Only got 5 likes. Dang, oh well” lol. Don’t get me wrong, social media is awesome for business and getting yourself out there, but it’s never been something I needed to feed off of for approval.
I think that’s because my mother raised me to stress about more important things. Like building assets, saving money, continuing my education, and to do what’s right. I don’t always listen (lol), but it's always on my mind. Watching my mother growing up, I learned that being liked, cute, and accepted was only fun until real life hits the fan. Even when I do receive complements about my physical appearance, it goes in one ear and out the other. I never let it go in one ear and to my brain where I could potentially become arrogant or crave the need for more appraisal. This is mainly because I’m so worried about not getting stuck and figuring out my next move in life.
My goal is to continue to be a woman of substance. No amount of instagram likes will teach me that. I like to read, read, and read some more because I’m constantly trying to acquire knowledge that adds value to my life. I’ve learned more from reading than from going to school. I’m trying to work on my relationship with Him. I’m trying to learn about finance. I’m trying to save for my future family. I’m trying to live a more healthy lifestyle. I’m trying to be a better blessing to others.
I’m trying to be a phenomenal woman.
So, to that 10 likes or less girl...be a pistol instead. I’m your biggest cheerleader. Choose to be a bad ass. Choose to sharpen your craft. Choose to let your light shine in other ways…and you’ll unknowingly receive acknowledgement for being one sharp lady who knows her stuff. You'll be winning way more than the popular instagram chick who probably secretly has terrible self esteem to begin with. Place value in that. Don’t get stuck in artificial land.
You go 10 likes girl! You’re totally a bad ass in my eyes.
-L