Sometimes we get real comfortable hiding behind a wall that’s meant to shrink us. We get caught up in seasons of self-doubt and it just feels less risky to fade into the background. But when you have goals to meet and money to make at some point you have to find the strength to trust yourself.
Self-doubt always comes around when you’re planning to level up. But your confidence in this period will make or break you. Get in front of your emotions and only commit your energy to what will build you up, not tear you down.
During this process you’ll learn a lot about yourself and you’ll be more appreciative for the experiences that brought you through. Here are four ways to shift your mindset in seasons of self-doubt:
1. Show somebody else love
I can guarantee that there’s someone in your phone book going through the same mental battle you are. Reach out to your friends who you know truly have your back, even if they are disconnected to the things you do in your daily life. Ask how they are doing, give them praise for their accomplishments, throw a gratitude party for somebody else. They will thank you for the love and reciprocate it. You get to heal someone and catch your blessing at the same damn time.
2. Stunt on non-believers
When you’re working towards a major goal people think you’re crazy and it’s ok. Let their shade be your fuel not your kryptonite. We have to accept that there the will be critics but you get to draw the line between constructive feedback and outright dream killing. Allow yourself to be upset, take a deep breathe, then carry on. Don’t tear yourself apart over other people’s opinions. Just get better on your own terms.
3. Let that hurt go
Sometimes we put ourselves out there and the end results don’t turn in our favor. Every rejection, failure, and heartbreak plants this seed in our minds and our actions dictate whether it will bloom. Give yourself time to cry, get mad, be sad, but then get back in the game. Revisit the reasons you took the leap in the first place and congratulate yourself for taking action. Don’t let hurt feelings from the past accumulate in your future.
4. Do shit that scares you
Nothing makes you more confident than successfully conquering something you saw as an obstacle. Stop thinking about all the ways things could go wrong, and start working on making them go right. The more opportunities you give yourself to fuck up the more confident you’ll be. You know why? Because you will unexpectedly win and realize you deserve to give yourself ALL the credit.
Is confidence an uphill battle in your personal growth? Drop a comment and let me know how you get through it.
Peace + Love,
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