What is it that makes you more of a woman than me? Or I than you?

What is it about these labels that validate you and not me?

What have I done so great that my value outweighs yours?

What is it about my beauty that makes you feel inferior? As if you don't possess your own.

After all, we live in a world where style can outweigh prettiness, and grace can overshadow genetics. Personality can make you alluring. And the right perfume can make you enticing. 

But success? These days, especially as a late twenty-something, success is the main cause for comparison.

And so I ask, what is it that makes me more successful than you? Or you than I? 

Is it the amount of money you make? The names on your resume? The number of degrees you have? The "links in bio"?

Or is it the places you've been? The pictures you take? The followers you have?

Oh how could I forget, it must be the relationship you're in. The engagement ring, the wedding dress, the honeymoon.

Is it the events you attend, the car you drive, the people you know?

Is it the length of your hair, the hair you buy or the shoes you wear?

No, it must be your natural hair journey that has made you more in tune with the earth and therefore wiser than words.

What is it about your artistry that makes you worth more than me? Or I than you?

What is it about your serenity that makes you more interesting than me? Or I than you?

Oh I see, it must be your deep knowledge of history and scripture that makes you more sophisticated.

But what is it about your struggle that makes you stronger than me?

There's nothing wrong with asking yourself questions. But these questions don't always need answers. There's nothing that makes you more woman than me, and me more powerful than you aside from our own minds. There's nothing more magical than realizing you're an eternal spirit, just living an earthly life. And there's nothing more satisfying than realizing that God is in you, and that in itself is enough. 

You are enough.

-Ness